tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39780547144653853112024-03-04T21:18:21.100-08:00Sliding Into ChastityA blog about slipping into male chastity and the effects it can have on life.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-38824174327236750712016-12-17T16:58:00.000-08:002016-12-17T16:58:03.488-08:00Initial Review: Strict Gate Chastity Devicei have received my Strict Gate chastity device in the mail today (www.strictgate.com). Upon opening the box, similarities between the Strict Gate chastity device and the Birdlocked chastity device packaging are immediately apparent. Both devices come with a similar case. The similarities with the Birdlocked chastity device do not stop there, however.<div>
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i've always liked my Birdlocked Mini - the comfort of the silicone cage has been unrivaled. And the Strict Gate features the same cage as that Birdlocked Mini. What i have not been particularly fond of in the Birdlocked Mini is the ring, and the modified hose clamp used to hold everything tight. I find that one or both testicles can retract too easily through the ring, even while locked. </div>
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When it comes to ring shapes and perceived security, i've always liked the Holy Trainer chastity device rings. They fit comfortably and are contoured nicely. Strict Gate has taken the Holy Trainer ring (and lock assembly) and mounted the Birdlocked Mini cage to the Holy Trainer ring. The soft silicone cage includes the tab of the Holy Trainer cage that extends back underneath the ring. The soft tab, however, is more comfortable that the rigid tab of the Holy Trainer. This promises to be a very comfortable combination. Time (and only the test of time) will tell.</div>
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Speaking of promises, the Strict Gate chastity device includes a pledge ring but the pledge ring can be exchanged for different alternative rings: a tiny pico ring, a glow in the dark lumino ring, and an enforcing stricto ring (reminiscent of the points of intrigue teeth that could be inserted into a CB6000). Some day down the line, if i like the Strict Gate device enough, i might consider trying the variety of pledge rings. For now, i'll give this a try and see how it goes with an extended trial period.</div>
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ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-29491744875522274202016-01-02T10:19:00.001-08:002016-01-02T10:19:38.973-08:00Day ThreeAs i write this, according to my Days Since app, it has been 3 days, 2 hours and 57 minutes since i put myself into my Mature Metal chastity cage and closed the lock. She is aware that i am locked but doesn't seem too interested in playing; She's been through a lot lately and still isn't fully healed so i understand Her lack of desire to play. <br />
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Only three days in and my desire for sexual contact of any kind is starting to increase. i can feel the urges to handle things myself increasing but i really want to resist so not having the keys to my relief, so to speak, is very helpful. This is just a short post for today - more like a journal entry.<br />
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i will say, since it has been so long since i've locked away, the slight discomfort that arises from time to time is a reminder to me of why i do this: not for me, but for Her. It increases my focus on things that should matter more to me.<br />
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my to do list for today:<br />
(1) develop a weekly chore list to ease Her burden going into the new year (if anyone has one, i'd love to see it)<br />
(2) walk or run 10,000 steps<br />
(3) clean up the kitchenChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-34246603105323207312014-09-15T09:19:00.004-07:002014-09-15T09:19:51.131-07:00Time for a QuickieJust to let those who follow this blog know, i have slipped back into the Public Enemy Number 1 (thanks, at least in part, to a brief exchange with @TheMistressCara over the weekend). i want to wear it as much as i can to determine whether it is more sturdy than the old CB6000s.<br />
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i will be removing it for exercising and for showering. During exercise, i experience chaffing no matter what device i wear (the Birdlocked seems to be the most tolerable) and i am still trying to shed some weight. During showering, i just need to be able to shave and to feel clean.<br />
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i also have bought the mystim device...so i should be able to play with electro stimulation at some juncture, maybe as early as this weekend.<br />
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i will probably post a revised review with pictures taken by myself at some point in the future. In the meantime, have a great week. xxChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-7829826649311437972014-08-19T19:03:00.000-07:002014-08-19T19:03:26.536-07:00Why She ReturnsA quiet knock on the door. No reply. He stares at his computer. Again. Three gentle, almost silent knocks.<br />
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He stands, smoothing his suit pants and straightening the lapels of his jacket. Slowly, he approaches the door. As he reaches for the handle, the knocking begins again, only to be interrupted by his pulling the door open and away from the delicate fingers curled into a fist.<br />
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"Come in. Please." No other words need be spoken.<br />
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She enters his office, his private respite from the world outside. His office. His world. His rules. He is in command in his office. She knows this and she enters willingly, wantonly. He knows this.<br />
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She stands next to his desk. He remains by the door. She does not look back but his stare pierces her soul. She shivers. <br />
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He quietly, slowly, methodically closes the door. With a click, the lock seals them together inside his world.<br />
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She remains motionless at the side of his desk until she feels his breath on her exposed neck. She left her hair up, just as he likes. He is immediately behind her. His chest...her back...moving in rhythm with their synchronized breathing. She feels him. Her knees begin to weaken. Her body finds that place of familiar craving.<br />
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The tip of his nose begins to trace a line up the side of her neck until her reaches her ear. He dwells and then slowly traces her ear with his nose. His lips rake along a lower portion of her ear. Nibbling on her ear lobe, he begins to whisper into her ear; she obeys.<br />
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Her black pencil skirt is raised to reveal the garters securing her black seamed hosiery in place. Her delicate panties overlying the garters are exposed to him as she hooks her thumbs under their waistband and slowly lowers them. As she bends to remove her panties, he grabs a fistful of her hair and holds her in position, bent over the top of his desk. She freezes...as she has been trained to do...her panties in her hands and her hands at her knees.<br />
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He delicately rubs her exposed ass as he begins the ritual that she only knows too well. Frightened, intimidated yet excited, she remains still. He continues rubbing as he moves to the side and begins lightly tapping, which progresses until his hand is in a full frenzy of violent movement. Tears fall from her eyes...silently. He slows again and, with only his fingertips, he softly caresses her now reddened ass. He ends this phase just as he has begun...his hand full of her hair.<br />
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As he pulls her upright by her hair, she drops her panties and she steps free of them and steps from her black polished heels. He turns her towards him and pulls her mouth to his. Deeply. Passionately. He kisses her. His lips on hers. Nibbling. Exploring. His arms now pulling her into him. His passion. Her fire. Their emotion. Their connection.<br />
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He lifts her onto his desk as they remain entwined. She first loosens and the removes his tie...hopeful. Her kisses move from his mouth and down his neck while her fingers deftly manipulate the buttons of his shirt. With each released button, her mouth moves down his chiseled chest and abdominal muscles, nibbling, sucking, licking and tracing a line downward. Suddenly, without warning, he yanks her head back. He locks lips with her once again and then quickly recoils, placing his fingers on her lips. With his fingers, he instructs her to move to the wooden chair to one side of his office.<br />
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With her seated on the chair, using his tie, he binds her to the chair with her hands behind the backrest. Slowly, methodically, he unclasps her stockings from her garters. Patiently, he slides them the full length of her legs. He kisses along the length of each of her legs, alternating from one to the other. He works the insides of the thighs and he dwells at her knees, her ankles and finally her toes. Using each of the stockings, he binds each of her legs to the chair was well. <br />
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He turns to his desk and retrieves his wooden ruler. She trembles ever so slightly, which arouses him even more. He kneels before her and the irony of his kneeling position is not lost on her. Using the ruler, he delivers tender yet consistent blows along her thighs as if to remind her that his kneeling is not out of submission to her but out of respect to her. <br />
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The blood flow rising to the surface reddens her thighs. The pain increases. He looks deeply into her eyes; they connect on a level far beyond that of mere verbal communication. He takes her places through pain; places she can never reach without him. He ceases the blows and begins gentle kisses. The pleasure begins to replace the pain. His tender kisses breaking her. Tears well up. His kisses trail upward along her thighs until she erupts with a single touch of his hand.<br />
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She shakes violently. The ecstasy is devastating. The love is crippling. She beings to weep. Helpless yet strong. Addled yet clear of mind. She is his, totally and completely. He remains still, allowing her this moment. As the shaking recedes to trembling he releases her bonds and he holds her. She is limb in his arms; she is home. <br />
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This is why she returns. <br />
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ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-85445338891947067812014-08-18T22:23:00.000-07:002014-08-18T22:23:11.579-07:00Short Story - SceneSilence burns in my ears. Just the gentle, incessant ringing - ever present to remind me that I am alive. <br />
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My limbs have gone numb from being secured to my four post wrought iron bed frame for what seems like an eternity. Periodically, I feebly struggle but somehow each attempt to free myself only tightens the bonds securing me in place. <br />
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My breathing is measured but shallow. The darkness that has captured me surrounds me yet I know that the daylight is just beginning to fade somewhere beyond the mask secured over my eyes. <br />
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She's returning. I can't see her. I can't hear her. I smell her; her perfume wafts into the room well before the clicking of her heels can be heard. Faintly at first and then with an increasing intensity. Everything she has done up to now follows a similar pattern: she begins very subtly and increasingly becomes bolder with each passing moment.<br />
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She enters the room, her heels announcing her entrance. She strides over to the bed and seats herself to my side. Her blood red nails begin softly tracing the muscles of my chest and abdomen. Gently tickling at first and progressively increasing in force. What once caused me to squirm from being ticklish, now begins to cause me to squirm from pain. Yet, I know that I must keep as still as possible; each squirm earns me additional force. Each flinch increases her fire.<br />
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She tugs at the chain. The chain connects two nipple clamps. The nipple clamps that have been in place for several minutes. The blood flow pulses. Each tug causing a gasp from pain and an increase in expectation. Soon, I know she will tug hard enough to yank the clamps free and the surge of blood into my nipples will be painful beyond measure. <br />
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Just as suddenly as she began tugging the chain, she stops. My breathing slows, momentarily. I feel a prickling session over my thighs and into my groin; she's rolling a Wartenberg pinwheel with varying degrees of force. I also notice a soft, silky sensation at the same time. She must be caressing me with a silk handkerchief of some sort. In the darkness, the pins and the silk create an intoxicating cocktail of sensations. My breathing quickens, becoming shallower by the minute.<br />
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She slides a silken encased hand down to grasp the chastity device binding me from any chance of an erection. I wince. She softly and gently cups each testicle and then mercilessly gives a prolonged and tight squeeze to both. A moan escapes my lips as they tremble from anticipation. She returns her attention to the plastic cage of the chastity device. She taunts me through the openings in the cage. She rubs the cage...imitating the motion that I desire with all of my soul. Her breath heavy upon the cage, piercing me. <br />
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Suddenly, she releases the chastity device and begins to caress, every so softly, along my inner thighs and my lower abdomen. Teasing. Taunting. She removes my blindfol and stares deeply into my eyes - silently. I sense we will soon have the breakthrough that I crave.<br />
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Her lips glisten. She licks them ever so gently. Fire erupts in her eyes. A glint of metal catches my attention; my key dangles from between her breasts. A wicked smile appears on her lips - she knows the deep longing that she has incited.<br />
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She slides her body on top of mine, quickly, gracefully. Uncontrollably, I swell against the confines of the cage, which squeezes me and increases the pain. She slides upward along my torso and assumes a seated position on my chest, her hands reaching rearward and continuing the caressing of my body. I can feel her moisture. I can smell her desire.<br />
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Leaking. I know I am leaking. There is no way I am not; it's been way too long and she's tantalized me for weeks on end without relief and without release.<br />
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She senses it too; without looking, she senses that I am leaking. I can see the anger begin to consume her. What seemed so close now disappears into the distance at the speed of light. She spins her body as if floating in air, pinning my arms. Her knees dig into my bicep muscles. I yelp.<br />
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She reaches toward the bedside stand. I panic.<br />
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Electrodes are connected to between the Mystim Tension Lover and the Mystim Public Enemy No. 1 that encases my most sensitive regions. My body goes limp with expectation, with desparation. I am paralyzed. I've failed her.<br />
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All of the build up, all of the passion, all of the anticipation are gone. And, suddenly I'm on fire; uncontrolled muscle pulsations begin and I being to shake. She's disengaged, disinterested. She's set the timer...only, I don't know how long she has decided this time.<br />
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Sweat pours down my face, stinging my eyes and blinding me without a need for a blindfold. She swiftly exits the room just as silently as she entered. I feel the chill of the wind following behind her. And then...darkness, cold darkness. Shivering. Praying for her return...hoping against it.<br />
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<br />ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-87941775171467933872014-08-16T13:25:00.003-07:002014-08-16T13:25:56.797-07:00Public Enemy No. 1 by Mystim ReviewI'm back...even if for a short time. <br />
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Chastity is a frustrating thing. Not only is it sexually frustrating, which is one of the intentions of chastity, of course, but it can be frustrating to wade through the array of chastity devices out there and find one that works for you and your anatomy. I've tried the CB-6000, the CB-6000s, the Bon-4, the Birdlocked, all with varying degrees of comfort, discomfort, and success.<br />
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I would be sold on the CB-6000s, if the rings didn't fail so often at the point of connection to the cage. Imagine my joy, then, when I saw the ring structure in an advertisement for the Mystim Public Enemy No. 1 chastity device; a new offering to give a try.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMt_23VoRGdpk2z_8ESRGF7kFgE_wVNHvrlC0WsXtVDa3GOMx1xr8vJi0yAS49lvCSRnhIpZK0EzfR9T_po6UP-jw-jeTKHY9jeBEugamvdiWqG2hqqsoKCna8JXrH5h7qgD1u68grU8o/s1600/Mystim_PubicEnemy_1024x1024.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMt_23VoRGdpk2z_8ESRGF7kFgE_wVNHvrlC0WsXtVDa3GOMx1xr8vJi0yAS49lvCSRnhIpZK0EzfR9T_po6UP-jw-jeTKHY9jeBEugamvdiWqG2hqqsoKCna8JXrH5h7qgD1u68grU8o/s1600/Mystim_PubicEnemy_1024x1024.jpg" height="400" width="300" /></a>The Public Enemy No. 1 has a cage that is similar to, if not slightly larger than, the CB-6000 in size and length. The Public Enemy No. 1 cage has a length of 84 mm while the CB-6000 cage has a length of 82.5 mm and the CB-6000s cage has a length of 63.5 mm. The Public Enemy No. 1 has a diameter of 47 mm at its widest while each of the CB-6000 and the CB-6000s has a diameter of about 35 mm. So, while the CB-6000s has a practically perfect cage size for me, I'll take occasionally withdrawing into the shaft of the cage for an improved ring structure.<br />
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And the ring structure of the Public Enemy Number 1 is much improved over the ring structure of the CB-6000 and the CB-6000s. Those familiar with my experiences with the CB-6000 and the CB-6000s will know that the rings have failed, not just one or twice but several times. The rings have a reduced thickness portion that receives the posts that complete the encircling of the testicles and penis shaft; the reduced thickness and sharp transition in structure creates a stress-riser in that region, which ultimately fails. This ring structure is a significant design flaw, in my opinion.<br />
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The ring of the Public Enemy Number 1 chastity device is more of a ratcheting style ring, without the ratchet. One end of the ring is received within the other end of the ring. A pin secures the ring at a desired diameter, ranging from 33 mm to 52 mm in six increments. The pivot location is located alongside of the testicles instead of at the base of the testicles. The pivot location has yet to pinch me, which was one concern I always have had with hinges in the rings of chastity devices. The only other slightly discomforting feature of the ring are small recesses formed on the inside of the ring, which recesses form teeth that can catch on the skin of the testicles adjacent to the ring. Otherwise, this structure seems to address the primary weakness of the CB-6000 by removing the two-piece ring construction.<br />
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Incidentally, the Public Enemy Number 1 chastity device also comes with electrodes that can be connected to an estim device (two black pads (shown above) can be inserted or removed from the cage and the pads run alongside of the penis). Until I buy an estim device, I will not be able to comment on the effect of those pads.<br />
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So, in I go. I'll report back after a few days to see how this device performs relative to the CB-6000 and CB-6000s, which is the closest in design to this in my ever-growing collection.<br />
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<br />ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-67510425497517671722013-06-10T19:23:00.002-07:002013-06-10T19:50:01.209-07:00Maybe i Am A Little Bit GayThis weekend, on Sunday, i was thinking about whether i could be gay or not. Not as in "am i gay?" but, more like, "is it possible for me to think/behave like a gay guy?"<br>
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Let me start with this: i truly don't care whether people are gay or not. They are who they are and i accept and love them for who they are. Gay, straight, bi ... i see everyone as a person, not a class of people. i can't wait until the day when we stop trying to break society into a number of factions or groups and, instead, we start viewing everyone as distinctly different but still a valued part of the human race.<br>
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With that said, and maybe it was the pride weekend postings i saw from West Hollywood, but i was thinking about the question this weekend. i was pleasantly surprised when i saw that Thumper also was thinking about the question. See his posting here: <a href="http://denyingthumper.com/2013/06/10/how-i-know-im-not-gay/" target="_blank">"How i Know i am Not Gay"</a><br>
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Like Thumper, i must profess that "i love pussy." My Wife does not believe me, but i could camp out down there and nuzzle, kiss, lick, suck and otherwise enjoy my time for hours. i love the taste and, even more, i love the pleasure that giving oral provides to the recipient. But it doesn't stop there for me.<br>
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i love the feminine form. i love the curves of the larger bodies. i love the softness of the female face. i love the strength in the legs of some women. i love the beauty in the tight body of some women. i love the breasts in all women. i love the makeup. i love the hair styles. i love the clothing. i love the shoes. i love how the makeup, the hair, the shoes, and the clothing work together to accentuate the form, curves, softness, strength and beauty. In short, i love everything there is about the appearance of women. i can't find a single aspect of the appearance of women that is disagreeable to me.<br>
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As i explore my innermost thoughts, desires and dreams, i find that i would love to be a woman; i am not, however, attracted to men. i think the male body, including the penis, just is not pretty or cute. In all of the pictures i see of gay men, and of all of the gay men that are my friends, i just am not attracted to them sexually. Thinking of men in a sexual manner does nothing to turn me on. i just enjoy being with women sexually too much.<br>
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On the other hand, and maybe confusingly, a penis on a shemale/transvestite/transgender/crossdresser ... i need to spend more time dwelling on that before i can come to any conclusions. The softness of the appearance usually is enough for me to forgive the existence/presence of a penis. For now, i'll call that a draw.<br>
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In any event, i am convinced that i am a little bit gay: the female part of me loves women and so, if i was a woman, i would definitely be a lesbian. Because i have a part of me that is feminine...i am a lesbian trapped in a male body; that makes me just a little bit gay.<br>
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There, i said it, i am a little bit gay. ;-)ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-72379950407621101432013-04-07T14:31:00.001-07:002013-04-07T15:32:22.704-07:00Interesting Tid-Bit For Those Considering ChastityWhat style of jeans do you wear? Seriously. What style?<br />
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You might contemplate the effect of your sense of style on your chastity device. Let me explain. First, keep in mind that i normally wear suits, dress pants, or yoga clothing (think, loose fitting in the crotch-area, home of the aforementioned chastity device). Accordingly, the issue i am about to discuss rarely makes itself known. <br />
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Now, the chastity device truly gets the brunt of the pressure with unforgiving or unyielding clothing, such as jeans. The downward force or rearward force applied to the cage portion of the chastity device translates back to the ring. In the case of the Birdlocked Mini, which i am wearing at the moment, there is some stretch allowed in the connection. On the other hand, the CB6000s, which i also wear from time to time, the connection between the cage and the ring is not so flexible. In fact, i am willing to bet that the ring breakage experienced by so many is due in no small part to the types of clothing being worn over the locked package. <br />
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What should the chaste male wear, then? For example, boxers or briefs? If we are talking about treating the chastity device nicely, i would say boxers. If we are talking about making the chaste male uncomfortable, i would say panties...er, briefs. You see, when i wore briefs over the CB6000s, i noticed that i would develop bruising or pressure sores in the region where the ring contacted the area surrounding the body. This is likely due to the pressure applied by the clothing choice. Thus, to be gentle to yourself and to be gentle to your chastity device, wear boxers (or loose fitting panties, briefs, etc.) and suits or other clothing with room. For some, skirts would be best. ;-)<br />
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Be kind to yourself and let others handle the punishment. <br />
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ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-44197661152978548192012-05-20T20:33:00.001-07:002012-05-20T20:48:19.786-07:00Today, She Has the KeysFor those who follow me on Twitter or on Facebook, you already know that, as of last night, She has the keys to my lock. How did this happen, i've been asked.<br />
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Let me start by setting the stage. My birthday was Friday and it had been almost a month since my Wife and i had been intimate. Frustration and, quite frankly, a touch of sadness had crept into my emotions. As we watched television together, after a nice sushi dinner, i noticed an ankle bracelet around Her ankle. i didn't buy Her an ankle bracelet; it was on my list to buy for a later celebration. Intrigued, i asked where She got the jewelry. She explained that Her mother had given it to Her as a gift. All i could envision was a silver key to my chastity cage dangling from the silver ankle bracelet.<br />
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That night, She initiated, maybe as a birthday present of sorts, a night of passionate lovemaking with extended foreplay. As i nuzzled against Her neck, i began to whisper in Her ear about using my chastity device more often. She was moist. i continued to describe in vivid detail the various things She could request of me as i worked to earn freedom from the locked chastity device. She became downright wet and very sexually responsive. Maybe i had touched a nerve? Maybe the honesty was the turn on? Whatever it was, something triggered an amazing reaction in Her.<br />
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After an amazing night of sex, better than any in recent memory, i drifted off to sleep. Saturday morning, as soon as Target opened, i walked in to purchase shaving supplies and a silver padlock (all of my padlocks were gold/brass colored, which doesn't match any of Her jewelry). When She left to run errands on Saturday afternoon, i shaved and locked myself into the CB6000s. i spent the rest of the day locked, unbeknownst to Her. i wanted to tell Her all day, but i was afraid of how She might react. She worked on a project late into the evening and, because She knew i had to be awake early on Sunday to drive our son to a sports practice, She encouraged me to go to bed without Her.<br />
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Upstairs, by myself, i sat and thought about my predicament: i wanted Her to take control of my keys but i didn't want to turn Her off. i knew that this mental tug of war could go on for years - if i wanted any shot at making enforced chastity a reality, i needed to be honest with Her and ask Her to be involved. i sat and wrote a short letter to Her. The letter explained that i meant everything i said in the heat of the previous evening's lovemaking. The letter explained that, while She was free to refuse, i wanted to be locked into chastity and i wanted Her to hold the keys. When i was satisfied with the letter, i put the signed letter together with the keys on Her bathroom counter; a location She would be sure to visit before bed.<br />
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Nervously, i went to bed and turned out the lights. My cock encased in polycarbonate and secured with a padlock. The keys were sitting on Her counter - no longer in my control. Maybe this was a bad idea. Maybe it will turn Her off and upset Her. Maybe this was a bad idea. Maybe it will turn Her on and i will be locked away forever. My heart pounded. My pupils dilated. My throat dried. The physical reactions i was experiencing were nothing compared to the sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach and the butterflies that took hold as soon as i heard Her feet on the stairs. <br />
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This was it. She was coming upstairs. She certainly would go into the bathroom. i had set into motion a chain of events that no longer could be stopped. i closed my eyes and pretended to sleep; pillow positioned over my eyes. My senses fully awakened.<br />
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As Her footsteps grew louder, my pulse rate increased. She walked past the bed. i could smell Her perfume. i heard the light switch in the bathroom, then nothing. Silence. Deafening silence. Finally, i heard the clinking of keys. She must have picked them up. <br />
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After another moment of silence, She lifted the pillow. "I don't understand," She said. My heart sank. Now i was confused. What in my letter could She not understand? i softly asked, "Don't understand what?". It turns out, She was confused about why i went out and bought a new padlock. Once i explained my reasoning, She seemed to be satisfied and went back downstairs, knowing that i was laying in bed with the chastity cage locked in place. A race resumed between my mind and my pulse rate.<br />
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After about a half-hour, She returned. She turned out the lights, crawled onto my side of the bed and snuggled up next to me. She wanted a back rub. She was exploring Her newfound control and sense of authority. i obliged. As i rubbed, She began to become more and more sexually excited. After a 45 minute massage, when invited, my hands, lips and tongue began to massage Her breasts and Her inner thighs. i crawled all over Her. i explored. i nibbled on Her neck and ears. i felt like a teenager again. She whispered questions. "Doesn't it hurt?" "How does it work?" "Are you comfortable?" In response to Her commenting that She didn't always want to be in control in bed, we arrived at a compromise: She could control my cock and when it gets used but i will take control in bed as soon as She asks. Immediately upon settling on that compromise, She asked that i unlock because She wanted to feel me inside of Her.<br />
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Sounds great to me...so far.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-66891461398216859052012-03-31T08:28:00.000-07:002012-03-31T08:28:26.601-07:00Will It Happen?<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Short update on O/our current situation. It is Saturday, March 31 at 8:07 am. Shortly, i will be tending to the lawn and other chores around the house before getting some work projects completed for the office.</div><br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">W/we recently returned from an extended trip to celebrate our anniversary. It was a long-needed time away to reconnect without the office, the kids or other commitments getting between us. W/we reconnected and it was beautiful.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFfQn9ALVbPb-xpPmltjRzpqJPkAD7hAGkt94sWE8i4zdQNjhxxcY_jgsiB_DjH7xV9aHvLyCNtMaQZxnuAm_85tqzQTTTQl4r8aG7ooowM4KP91b7gfSi-3NgEUry6rzNfPbqXA-rEI8/s1600/IMAG0311.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a>Last night, She left on a weekend trip. She sent some photos through to stir some excitement. After an afternoon of teasing, She sent through a text telling me to "be good." This was meant to say that i should not take things into my own hands during Her absence. i viewed this as an invitation (and quite an opportunity).</div><br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">For those who have not followed my posts, i have been dabbling in self-inflicted locking for a while now. Let's just say, i'm interested. She finds it a bit beyond Her more vanilla tastes - She thinks the Birdlocked and the CB6000s are a bit freaky. Nevertheless, i gave Her a CB6000s for Christmas. She put it in my underwear drawer and hasn't mentioned it since.</div><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">"Hands off tonight. ;) The little guy is locked away for you."</td></tr>
</tbody></table> <div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">After Her comment last night, i put the CB6000s on and sent Her a picture, which started the following back and forth:</div> m: Hands off tonight. ;) The little guy is locked away for you. We will see how sleeping goes.<br />
H: Looks painful. U don't have to do that. I trust u.<br />
H: Love u<br />
m: Actually not too uncomfortable.<br />
<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">m: i bought it for U to use on me.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">H: Can u still get aroused with that on?</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">H: Looks like I could even still lick the tip.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">m: U could now. That made me swell up and completely fill the thing.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">H: Does it hurt to get aroused</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">m: Licking the tip would be utterly frustrating...sounds delicious. Hurt is not the right word. Arousal simply fills all the space and gives a small squeeze. i imagine being teased in it would drive me insane.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">H: Make u beg to be released and fill me with all of your manliness.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">m: The keys are Yours. i will drive U whenever U want. ;)</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">H: I love u. Can't wait to be home Sunday to be taken for a ride.</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
Tomorrow is a long way away but i hope She keeps showing interest...at least i think i do.</div>ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-20319462817573619642011-12-25T14:25:00.000-08:002011-12-25T14:25:11.564-08:00Seizing the OpportunitySomeone once asked that i explain how i first broached the topic of chastity devices with my Wife. Keep in mind that She still considers chastity devices "freaky," as in "weird," but i at least took my masturbatory life in my hands and introduced Her to the idea.<br />
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She was on a trip to see Her parents and i remained home because i couldn't take the time off of work. On these occasions, i typically self-lock. And this trip was no different. To try to ease the pangs of separation, She had been texting me pictures of Her in little to no clothing, a definite uptick in our relationship spice. <br />
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One night, She texted me that She lost a ring that i had given to Her as a present. It was cold where She was and Her fingers had shrank, which allowed the ring to fall from Her finger. The ring truly was not that expensive and i knew that i could buy the exact same ring again if needed. i was not worried. She was. i began joking with Her about locking Her rings on Her fingers.<br />
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After a series of texts, i felt like i saw an opening so i texted Her that i had a ring on my cock and that it was locked in place. She continued joking along those lines. i went online and found a picture someone had taken of a Birdlocked chastity device and sent it to Her. She wouldn't be able to tell if it was me or someone else given the composition of the picture. i felt fairly safe.<br />
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Her response shocked me. She replied "nice picture." i swallowed hard. i thought i might be standing on the verge of "be careful what you wish for." Her next text asked where the device came from. i came clean about the photograph...it wasn't me.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuN0aKD3CqZklkw8b-2-yx8X2cT07aOnCzLla0PBYhLq5mKSL_kSf2-jmhuLQWCgEmI6ytUhmNQshbvqs4Y43mOCPxOG5IFX2AioRNxElU6aer35fe2rGbh0WTktKgLeg5PzF9dZiCpNo/s1600/43606470982_ORIG.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150px" rea="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuN0aKD3CqZklkw8b-2-yx8X2cT07aOnCzLla0PBYhLq5mKSL_kSf2-jmhuLQWCgEmI6ytUhmNQshbvqs4Y43mOCPxOG5IFX2AioRNxElU6aer35fe2rGbh0WTktKgLeg5PzF9dZiCpNo/s200/43606470982_ORIG.jpeg" width="200px" /></a></div>The day She was to return home, i texted Her the picture to the right, which i took of myself locked in the Birdlocked. i didn't tell Her i had been locked for 7 straight days at that point. My text read:<br />
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"Since you liked the other photo, i went out and found the same locking ring. You can have the key and unlock it when You want. ;) By the way, i still love those pictures."<br />
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When She arrived home, the keys were on my bathroom counter. She asked what they were, and i reminded Her. She didn't ask to see it...She also didn't ask if i was still wearing it.<br />
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That night, we retired to the bedroom and, after a while, she turned off the television. Her indication that She wants to play around in bed is turning off the television. i started to swell within the cage of the Birdlocked. She pulled me to Her and we began to engage in typical foreplay. Eventually, Her hands moved down to my pajama bottoms and my mind (and heart) starting racing. This was it. She was going to find out for sure and i am going to find out what She thinks.<br />
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Her fingers danced below my waistband and then Her hand quickly raced around my encased package. She didn't freak out yet She also didn't seize Her opportunity. Rather, once She was sure what She was feeling with Her fingers, She asked that i go remove the Birdlocked and come back to bed. She didn't like the way it felt on me and She said She thought the Birdlocked made my testicles feel like tennis balls (they get pulled tight when locked). She also wanted to play and the Birdlocked was going to prevent that from happening.<br />
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Later, She would take a look at the Birdlocked and explain that She just wasn't comfortable with it and that it looked sort of freaky. She hasn't completely dismissed the concept but She clearly is not ready for enforced chastity...yet.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-81362006219509938752011-10-30T07:36:00.000-07:002011-10-30T07:36:53.033-07:00Chastity in Las Vegas<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://img.alibaba.com/photo/348969997/Hot-sale-male-chastity-device-600.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear:right; float:right; margin-left:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="400" width="400" src="http://img.alibaba.com/photo/348969997/Hot-sale-male-chastity-device-600.jpg" /></a></div><br />
i have two days and one night in Las Vegas this week. i would like to shop for a male chastity device while in town. Any suggestions on a store? i will wear the device for four days and post a review later this week if i can find a store with something new to try.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-74980927520444276382011-07-23T07:57:00.000-07:002011-07-23T07:57:40.454-07:00Monogamous Less the Amorous<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Picture from Melvin_Es on Flickr</td></tr>
</tbody></table>i have been struggling with a lack of sex in our marriage. Yes, a lack of sex is to be expected by someone using the moniker of "Chaste Hubby." However, the bothersome part is not the lack of sex but the missing amorous interactions. <br />
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Starting with the monogamous part, i am not inclined to turn outside of O/our marriage for the physical attention that i so deeply desire. Monogamy, whether it is natural or not, is deeply rooted in my soul. O/our immediate families have had no divorces and we are "in it together for the long haul." There is nothing inherently wrong with divorces and the people that resort to them. Rather, i just feel my obligation to my family, my kids, and my family culture is to fight, struggle and get through whatever may face U/us in a marraige. The solution, then, must be found within the relationship - unless that proves an utterly useless effort, in which case moving on may be the only option.<br />
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Amorous is defined by Merriam-Webster's as "moved by love and especially sexual love." What happens, though, when the amorous actions vacate the marriage? i remember back to dating a friend named Heidi in junior high school. While she was the first girl who let me touch Her breasts, and while She taught me how to caress, nuzzle and snuggle, we were exploring the emotions and experiences caused when the physical contact released the torrent of chemicals within the body. We were learning together but She was my first tutor. We held hands when we walked. We hugged, and not just to say "hello" and "good bye," but for any reason and no reason at all. When i think of what O/our marriage is missing, the memories of Heidi flood to the surface.<br />
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Later, in high school, i had a very short relationship with Kayleen. Kayleen and i connected in a way that i cannot explain. She had a very strong libido and was just discovering Her desires. i was an interlude in a relationship that She was in the midst of that involved a very religous young man. He would not satiate Her - i was more than willing. We spent countless evenings in a parked car exploring every curiousity. She was intelligent, clever, witty and brazen. Many of the characteristics that i love about my Wife. However, Kayleen had a libido that allowed for kisses in times and places that bordered on inappropriate, but we were young. Again, however, the hand-holding, snuggles and affection were free flowing.<br />
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These are the things missing from O/our marraige. When did the marriage bed become so lonely and how did it happen? In reviewing articles written by others, it appears that The Atlantic wrote about the <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/01/the-wifely-duty/2659/">lack of sex in marriage</a> back in 2003. According to that article, even Dr. Phil noted on his website that "sexless marriages are an undeniable epidemic." The article, however, is a review of <em>The Sex-Starved Marriage</em>, which i may have to pick up and read because it purports to contain a few tips and solutions.<br />
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In O/our marriage, what She doesn't understand, and what i have tried countless times and in countless ways to explain, is that it is NOT about the intercourse. i could be locked in chastity for the rest of my life as long as there was a physical component to replace the intercourse. People need the brush of the arm during a conversation. People need the holding of a hand while walking through the marketplace. The seemingly infinitesimal physical contacts can revive and maintain the steady heartbeat of a marriage. Without them, the weight of the world can smother out the brightest burning flame of love. <br />
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Because i attempt at all times to provide for Her anything and everything She could ever want, i guess She does not see a need to resort to using sex as a negotiating chip. As The Atlantic article explained:<br />
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"Davis reminds women that one of the more effective ways to get a husband to be more considerate and helpful is to seduce him. She counsels a group of female clients who complain of angry, critical husbands to 'pay more attention to their physical relationships with their husbands,' to 'be sexier, more affectionate, attentive, responsive, and passionate.'"<br />
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So i wonder if the solution is to be less considerate, less helpful, more angry and more critical? The problem is that i am not that way by nature. Alas, i will have a weekend full of lawnwork, housework and child ferrying during which to consider how to move forward. i am flailing about trying to find an answer. i have tried the direct route and i am not getting any positive response. i am not sure how long i need to pound my head against the wall, before i turn to see a door.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-43699940778739446692011-07-14T23:48:00.000-07:002011-07-14T23:48:26.571-07:00Attitude AdjustmentWhen She travels, i spend extended periods self-locked into a chastity device. During Her most recent trip, for example, i have remained locked from as soon as Her car slipped away around the corner. i have about 36 hours left before She returns. In total, i will remain in my chastity device for 7 days plus a number of extra hours. i will take the chastity device off before She returns.<br />
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Odd? Maybe. It is a bit like running a marathon...or so i am told. No one would be upset with you if you quit early but you press on toward the finish line with your own drive and determination. Sure, i could let myself out at any time but doing so would defeat the purpose of putting it on in the first place. Hell, i often feel guilty having an orgasm after an extended period of denial - it is like Ironman Cal Ripken Jr. taking a seat for a game when he didn't really need to physically.<br />
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i have found throughout my life that i am destined to be a pleaser. i am the golden retriever of the male species. i know that She expects that i won't touch myself, masturbate, orgasm, what have you, while She is traveling. i also know that i am prone to taking advantage of free time in just such a manner and that i act on impulse very often. Hence, self-locking is my solution.<br />
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Why self-locking and not Wife enforced locking? Very good question. i have joked about things in the past to try to get a feel for the level of "freak out" that introducing enforced locking would cause. i have not gotten to a comfort level that She will not totally freak out. i am still debating revealing my secret to Her when She returns, but it is not a very hearty debate.<br />
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All of this is background for my most recent discovery. i habitually will masturbate if left to my own devices - hey, i'm male and i have a very strong libido. During this trip, the first night i locked, i still wanted to browse the darker corners of the internet. When i say "i wanted," i mean i had the itch, the crazy eyes, the whole works. The addict in me wanted to take advantage of the privacy and freedom provided by Her trip. Alas, the chastity device prevented that. <br />
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Over the last 5 days, the desire to take things into my own hands, so to speak, has ebbed and flowed but also has steadily decreased to the point that i have a very low grade desire to prowl around those dark corners. i find this psychological impact interesting - i know that nothing can result, so the efforts have fallen off dramatically. i have focused on cleaning Her bedroom and Her bathroom. i want Her to be able to drop Her bags and immediately rest upon Her return. Foot rubs, back rubs and scalp massages await Her, if She wants to receive them.<br />
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This is the reason i self-lock. Now, if someone would only invent the chastity device for tweets...ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-75316402085761170742011-04-22T23:46:00.000-07:002011-04-22T23:46:14.566-07:00Birdlocked v. CB6000s - Preliminary ReviewThe gauntlet has been thrown down. Which device will come out on top in the cage match of cages? Interesting that, since i tweeted about wearing the Birdlocked, i received more than a couple of questions about the device. In my anecdotal research and in my browsing of chastity-themed captions and pictures, no device is more recognized than the CBX000 family of male chastity devices, which includes the CB6000s that i have worn almost exclusively of late.<br />
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i bought the Birdlocked in January, around January 21, 2011, and i was first able to get it on my body in March, around March 19, 2011. i wore it for one night. Now, with an extended period of travel for my Wife, i have the time necessary to experiment longer term with the Birdlocked device that i purchased quite some time ago. <br />
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<div align="center"><strong>THE DEVICES</strong></div><br />
<u>The CB6000s</u><br />
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The <a href="http://www.cb-6000.com/cb_6000s_details.html">CB6000s</a> chastity device is manufactured and sold by A.L. Miller Enterprises, Inc. of the United States. The chastity device is made of a medical-grade polycarbonate material. The device comprises a cage and a separate ring that, when properly positioned and locked together, promise to restrict access to the penis. The cage is vented and includes an opening at the end to allow urination. The cage is 2-1/2 inches in length and has an inside diameter of 1-3/8 inch. While the cage is fairly small, given that it is spaced apart from the ring, it can accommodate penises longer than 2-1/2 inches when flaccid. The rings, when assembled, have inner diameters of 1-1/2 inches, 1-5/8 inches, 1-3/4 inches, 1-7/8 inches and 2 inches. Essentially, the ring is assembled behind the testicles such that it encircles the penis, just as a cock ring would. The cage is slipped over the penis and locked to the properly sized ring. The CB6000s has a current retail price of $149.95.<br />
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<u>The Birdlocked Mini</u><br />
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The <a href="http://www.birdlocked.com/male_chastity_device/gallery_chastity.asp#mini">Birdlocked Mini</a> chastity device is manufactured and sold by Birdlocked & Co. of Switzerland. The chastity device is made of a medical Silicone material. The chastity device is a one-piece sheath and ring construction that requires no assembly of the sheath to the ring. As with the CB6000s chastity device, the Birdlocked chastity device is vented and includes an opening at the end to allow urination. The Birdlocked Mini sheath is 2.12 inches long and has an inside diameter of 1.18 inches. The total length, from back of the ring to the tip of the sheath is 3.3 inches. The ring has a length of 1.18 inches and an inner diameter of 45 mm. Essentially, the ring is slid over the testicles and the penis just like a cock ring and then feed the penis into the sheath before locking the tip of the sheath in position along the lower part of the ring using a locking strap. The Birdlocked Mini has a current retail price of about $165.00 from the manufacturer. <br />
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As a side note, i bought both of my devices from the Stockroom. The Stockroom carries the Birdlocked Mini for $130.00 and the CB6000s for $149.95. Also, once i have removed the Birdlocked Mini, i will include side-by-side comparison images and, before removing the Birdlocked Mini, i will take pictures for comparison with pictures of the CB6000s.<br />
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<div align="center"><u><strong>THE COMPARISONS</strong></u></div><br />
<u>Appearances and First Impressions</u><br />
Both products are equally impressive in the manufacturing and overall appearance. Nevertheless, the CB6000s has a slight edge in my opinion because the more rigid polycarbonate provides a more elegant look to the product. This could be conditioning of my eye, because most of the devices being used in photo shoots and video shoots are from the CBX000 family of products.<br />
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<u>Putting On the Devices</u><br />
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The CB6000s clearly stands out above the Birdlocked Mini when it comes time to don the chastity device. Following a short period of experimentation to find a comfortable ring size (i.e., one that is tight enough for security but not so tight that things turn inappropriate colors), assembly of the three part puzzle that makes up the ring is simple and quick. The top portion of the ring is the same from ring-size to ring-size. Putting the u-shaped main portion of the ring between the testicles and the body, the two top portions are assembled over the root of the penis to capture the testicles and the penis. The cage can be slid over the penis in any manner chosen (e.g., stocking method or with lubrication). i prefer to use lubrication. A spacer is positioned between the cage and the ring and a post inserts through the back of the ring, through the spacer and through a hole in the base of the cage. A lock (e.g., plastic lock or padlock) can be inserted through a hole in the post to lock everything together. Simple. The only issues i ever had were: (1) getting the right combination of ring sizes and spacer/post sizes and (2) inadvertent pinching of skin when locking assembling the ring or when fitting the cage, space and ring together.<br />
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The Birdlocked Mini, on the other hand, was next to impossible to fit to my body. Before heading out to the store to buy the Birdlocked Mini, i spent a bit of time researching sizing. i ultimately selected the largest ring size for the Birdlocked Mini (i.e., 45 mm) based upon the ring size i was wearing comfortably with the CB6000s. The first time i tried to slip into the Birdlocked Mini, i spent well over 45 minutes of futile efforts and i gave up. i tossed the chastity device in my bag and thought i would never be able to use something that i had purchased for over $100. i continued to research and found that many guys with similar anatomical features (i.e., high and tight scrotums) had difficulty putting on the Birdlocked devices.<br />
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One day, as i was surfing around the Internet, i came across a video of a guy slipping into a Birdlocked device. The video was only available for a very short window of time before the censors got to it and stripped it from the hosting site. Nevertheless, through the magic of that video, i had witnessed someone slip into a Birdlocked device. My first reaction was: "i am being too gentle with myself - i need to be more confident about pushing and pulling to make this happen." Seems you need to thread one testicle through the ring sideways by pulling it through the ring and then push as much skin and such through until you can get the second testicle through the ring. The second one consistently didn't want to follow the first.<br />
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Earlier in the same day, i had read a recommendation that the Birdlocked devices be put on following a 15 minute hot bath and using a petroleum jelly to lubricate the ring. i proceeded to dig my Birdlocked Mini out of my bag, i grabbed a tube of petroleum jelly and i filled the bathtub with hot water. A half hour later, i was within the protective confines of my Birdlocked Mini. The only question running through my head was: "okay, it was really hard to put on...how will it come off?" i put that question aside for the night and figured i could worry about that tomorrow or during the night if something wasn't feeling right .<br />
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Thus, i can quickly and efficiently (perhaps even with my eyes closed or in the dark now) put myself into the CB6000. On the other hand, putting myself into my Birdlocked Mini takes much more time, energy and effort. At times i may close my eyes, but it takes quite a bit of pushing, pulling and faith to put my relatively modest package into the Birdlocked Mini.<br />
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<u>The Comfort Factor When Flaccid</u><br />
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What the Birdlocked Mini loses during donning, it more than makes up for in the comfortability category when going through the day. Over the course of a day or two, the rigid polycarbonate ring of the CB6000s can start to cause a burning sensation in the parts of the testicles that are in contact with the ring. i have tried lubrication with hand creams and the like but, given sufficient time in lock down, the creams absorb or are washed away in the shower and the burning sensation will return. i attribute this to the living, breathing, shrinking and swelling nature of the male anatomy and the inability of the ring to flex and conform to the body.<br />
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On the other hand, the ring of the Birdlocked Mini is formed of a pliable Silicone material. The material conforms nicely to the anatomy and, due to the increased tackiness of Silicone relative to polycarbonate, the ring does not significantly shift relative to the underlying anatomy. Having been locked into the Birdlocked Mini for almost 36 hours, very little burning sensation if any has been felt.<br />
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By way of counterpoint, however, the rigid polycarbonate cage of the CB6000s seems to be more comfortable relative to the Silicone sheath of the Birdlocked Mini. Where the tackiness of the ring seems to be a positive for comfort in the ring region, the tackiness of the sheath of the Birdlocked Mini grips the head a bit awkwardly. On the other hand, the rigid polycarbonate cage allows the head and length of the penis to slide a bit more freely as the penis grows and shrinks throughout the day. In my view, the comfort of the ring out ways the downside of the sheath so i would rate comfort during everyday wear higher for the Birdlocked Mini.<br />
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<u>The Comfort Factor During Erections</u><br />
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Ah, but the comfort for the wearer during erections also goes to the Birdlocked Mini. The CB6000s is rigid and does not give at all. If the wearer is a grower, much like me, an erection can become very painful because the penis is trying to grow larger around and in length than the CB6000s is willing to allow. The limit also can be seen as the entire CB6000s bobs up and down with the erection. As the erection becomes stiffer, the cage moves upwardly. As the erection becomes softer, the cage moves downwardly.<br />
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On the other hand, the Silicone material of the Birdlocked Mini allows some flexing of the material during an erection. While the length clearly is limited, the girth can be somewhat better accommodated by the Silicone material of the sheath. The limited length can cause some pain, just like the CB6000s. Thus, if more painful erections is what you are after, the CB6000s wins. If reduced pain, and simple chastity, is what you are after, the Birdlocked Mini is better than the CB6000s.<br />
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<u>The Mind Fuck</u><br />
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Truthfully, the CB6000s wins here but probably only because of my prior experiences with the CB6000. If you have followed me for any time, you will remember that both my CB6000 and my CB6000s have split along the seam. In addition, the rings have cracked where the bottom portion meets the two upper portions. Both instances placed fairly sharp edges and pinch points in some pretty sensitive regions. i worry every time i put the devices on that i will end up bleeding.<br />
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On the other hand, i worry about testicle torsion and testicle rupture when slipping into the Birdlocked Mini. i don't know of any documented cases of either...but i don't want to be the first.<br />
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All things considered, the mental trauma associated with putting on the Birdlocked Mini subsides and is very short lived while the fear of a split seam or cracked ring with the CB6000s is constant while i am wearing the CB6000s. Thus, the fear and mind fuck are heavily tipped in the direction of the CB6000s.<br />
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<u>Concealability</u><br />
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While the Birdlocked Mini advertising touts the ability to be concealed under clothing, i personally believe that the CB6000s has a sleeker profile when installed as compared to the Birdlocked Mini. i think the difference simply results from the construction of the cage: the CB6000s bends downward more severely than the Birdlocked Mini. Thus, under clothing, the CB6000s assumes a more natural appearance when compared to the Birdlocked Mini.<br />
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<u>Security</u><br />
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For some readers, this is the biggest point of interest. For security, i give a tie. Useful information, right? The CB6000s has a construction that allows the wearer to tip the cage downward and slip the penis from the cage rearward through the ring. Thus, without added accessories, there seems to be an easy way to escape and even reinsert into the cage.<br />
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In addition, the construction of the CB6000s also admits to use as a sleeve to rub the penis. Movement of the cage relative to the penis is easily accomplished and, if desired, the movement can be used to approach or achieve an orgasm. Yes, it is a pretty unsatisfactory orgasm, but it is possible if the wearer is frustrated enough.<br />
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On the other hand, the pliable Silicone sheath of the Birdlocked Mini grips the penis and limits this type of manual manipulation. The Silicone sheath can be squeezed and, in this completely different manner, an orgasm can be approached or achieved.<br />
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If i had to say one or the other was more secure, i would side with the Birdlocked Mini simply because, even when body wash or lotion is used, i have not been able to withdraw my penis from the sheath. Given how difficult i find the Birdlocked Mini to put on while it is unlocked, even if i could somehow Houdini my way out of the sheath, i doubt i would ever be able to reinsert. For this reason, i would pick the Birdlocked Mini over the CB6000s for security as long as all other accessories are omitted from the discussion.<br />
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<div align="center"><strong><u>Conclusion and Improvements</u></strong></div><div align="center"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">If i had all the time in the word to insert and lock myself, i would side with the Birdlocked Mini. In the real world, i don't have enough time for that, so i will wear the Birdlocked Mini when i have time and fall back to the CB6000s when i do not have time.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">If i could talk to the engineers at either company, i think an improvement on both would be to comold the silicon over top of a polycarbonate cage with the structure of the Birdlocked Mini. The polycarbonate cage would prevent manual manipulation of the penis through the cage but the upsides of the Birdlocked Mini would largely be maintained. The Silicone would reduce the likelihood of the cage splitting. The locking rings for both devices admit of improvement but i am not sure how i would improve the constructions. The width of the ring of the Birdlocked Mini is good from reducing the ability to withdraw through the ring but i think the Silicone material also helps in this regard. Further research and consideration are required in the ring department.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Well, for now, that's all i have. If you have follow-up questions, go ahead and post them or message me on twitter (@ChasteHubby). Good night and God speed.</div>ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-77749056886943165322011-03-19T15:38:00.000-07:002011-03-19T15:38:46.539-07:00Inner StrugglesSorry for the long silence...like many, i have internal struggles from time to time. i am not seeking the approval of anyone with this post and, if you are seeking stimulation, this post will not stimulate anything but debate and discussion.<br />
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"What are you doing?" "Why do you want this?" "Chastity devices...are you serious?" "Does this have a connection with a panty fetish?" "Would you tell your family what you enjoy?" "Yes, She is benefitting, so why are you after to talk it over with Her?"<br />
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The conversations and, on some days, debates are fleeting, fluid but ever present. They can be simply stated questions or can be filled with anger and frustration.<br />
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i was traveling recently. During my trip, i had significant freedom to go where i wanted, do what i wanted, be who i wanted. Seldom did i take care of things without Her - although I could have done so repeatedly. During my trip, however, i had a moment of self-discovery.<br />
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With all due respect to those into true D/s, i don't believe i would ever fit into "the scene." i've flirted with wanting to be in the scene. i've romanticized about being in the scene. i was in a big city during part of my travels and found a meeting of people that were into sissification and D/s more broadly. i went to observe but, unfortunately, i didn't last long. My phone rang shortly after the meeting began and it was Her. i stepped out to take the call and, as i stood there talking to Her, i realized that i was not interested in official D/s...at least not what i had just witnessed. i did not return - i went to dinner instead. To those of my readers who may have been in that meeting, i mean no disrespect - i just didn't find myself wanting to learn more after the first fifteen minutes. While in the meeting, i also understood that dressing in feminine outerwear in public is not something that necessarily excites me. In the same regard, wearing feminine underwear or a chastity device in public, under clothing of course, DOES excite me.<br />
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i have come to appreciate that i am a complex, complex human being with views, desires, hopes and fears that i simply cannot explain. They well up from deep within and i am not sure that i have the patience, stamina or strength to burrow deep down inside to understand enough.<br />
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What i have come to appreciate even more is that i love Her. If She wanted me in bondage, i would do it. If She wanted me in panties, i would do it. If She wanted me to never have sex again...i'd...i'd struggle but i'd do it. While i sometime disagree with Her, while i sometimes engage in verbal joisting with her, i know i always will be picking myself up from the turf while She looks down upon me from Her mount. What She doesn't need to know is that i sometimes fall from my own horse on purpose.<br />
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God, please grant me enough courage and strength to offer enforced chastity to Her as a way to improve our marriage.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-25151552902142134082010-09-06T12:56:00.000-07:002010-09-06T12:56:34.744-07:00Halloween Delight"Honey, when you have a moment, can you please come in here?" My wife was calling to me from the bedroom. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1U_UomNZ0sBOyDxLC8-mYequgj0cZqykdOUeeyAXqavVKA5ddPuSzrJk8ic4J-ClTAQg2pg4UpvNzgUYzPasZ1rlQUAXITeL3_kmMKG_hPQ7JzlLAbSfkgsNDghFVyDY02hVZiuLvYpI/s1600/husband+housework.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1U_UomNZ0sBOyDxLC8-mYequgj0cZqykdOUeeyAXqavVKA5ddPuSzrJk8ic4J-ClTAQg2pg4UpvNzgUYzPasZ1rlQUAXITeL3_kmMKG_hPQ7JzlLAbSfkgsNDghFVyDY02hVZiuLvYpI/s320/husband+housework.jpg" /></a></div>For months I have been stepping up around the house. I have been reading online about housekeeping and steadily increasing my workload around the house. My wife was beginning to enjoy her new found free time. She was spending time at the gym. She was going out for nice dinners with her friends. Basically, she was getting the "her time" that every married woman needs.<br />
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I, on the other hand, no longer was golfing, going to the bar or playing poker with the other men in the neighborhood. Instead of donning a golf glove, I was putting on rubber gloves. Instead of worrying about being dealt a bad hand, I was worrying about getting dishpan hands. <br />
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I quietly knocked and waited for permission from her to enter. Upon entering, I could see her at her desk carefully studying a magazine, but I couldn't make out exactly what kind of magazine. She slowly turned in my direction.<br />
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"Sit down on the bed for a minute. I just wanted to thank you," she started. "You have been working your fingers to the bone so that I can relax and enjoy myself. And I truly appreciate it."<br />
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"You are very welcome honey. It's the least I can do to show you my appreciation," I replied, maybe a little bit too quickly.<br />
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"Dear, please don't interrupt. When I am ready for you to talk, I will let you know. Until then, please remain quiet."<br />
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I nodded in reply.<br />
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"You know that I have been going to dinner with Lisa and Louisa, right?"<br />
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I nodded once again so as to not frustrate her further.<br />
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"Lisa is hosting a Halloween party tomorrow night and she invited us a few weeks back. I have been struggling with the costumes but, when I was talking with Louisa over coffee this morning, she mentioned how nice it must be to have a maid. That's when I knew it." She paused, almost uncomfortably long.<br />
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My puzzled expression must have given her the suggestion that I had no idea what "it" was.<br />
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"I still have not decided what my costume will be, but you will be attending as a maid."<br />
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I struggled to hold my tongue and to control my emotions. I must have looked startled but I did not speak.<br />
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She then showed me a page of the magazine she was looking through. It was actually a catalog from a costume store. The images were shocking but she quickly pointed to the French Maid.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxURMqO7HaM0stLFLOSYhRMl-GT1OjW7hoyBvU_Aahih6OhHIz2iLyb5jm3pQjoIvaFJiOZNPT-M0uARqpi0XcpNTPN95cHS8VqaJrshjbl2B0XpuS5IhdgwaT-wev0X3WtxyZUVRzfZk/s1600/costumes.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="345" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxURMqO7HaM0stLFLOSYhRMl-GT1OjW7hoyBvU_Aahih6OhHIz2iLyb5jm3pQjoIvaFJiOZNPT-M0uARqpi0XcpNTPN95cHS8VqaJrshjbl2B0XpuS5IhdgwaT-wev0X3WtxyZUVRzfZk/s640/costumes.jpg" width="640" /></a></div>"This is it, hubby, this is the costume I am getting for you. You will look so sweet wearing it, I just know it."<br />
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I started shaking my head with wide, teary eyes.<br />
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"Relax, honey, everything will be all right. You'll see..."<br />
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to be continued?<br />
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<a href="http://www.xvideos.com/video543945/slow_blowjob">http://www.xvideos.com/video543945/slow_blowjob</a>ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-64292639874846189882010-07-04T11:30:00.000-07:002010-07-04T11:30:56.750-07:00A Training Leash of Sorts<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwbS3k7KwyD_OsdsYb1ZXtyAfGrhdS-OiCKU9lBJpNrG-8IXYg5-yb9DBYvT-48Rj9qXBDPKvXzZaLyzJOOIJ7lyyRAbm-NX1v0dlB6hg23o9rjHTRL6ebBQJaxEutBEYU1kd0NvbnwtQ/s1600/SandraSoroka.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwbS3k7KwyD_OsdsYb1ZXtyAfGrhdS-OiCKU9lBJpNrG-8IXYg5-yb9DBYvT-48Rj9qXBDPKvXzZaLyzJOOIJ7lyyRAbm-NX1v0dlB6hg23o9rjHTRL6ebBQJaxEutBEYU1kd0NvbnwtQ/s320/SandraSoroka.jpg" /></a></div>The picture above from SandraSoroka on flickr reminded me of a post i had started sometime ago. Years ago, we got our first dog. As a family, we have learned much about dogs, sometimes out of necessity and sometimes out of accident. One of the first things we learned about, out of necessity, was leash training. <br />
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Leash training is an important aspect of raising a new puppy. It is well-known that a leash trained puppy is a safer puppy and a much more manageable puppy. Leash training takes much time, energy and patience. However, once a puppy has been leash trained, the owners can progress to having the puppy take walks off the leash but still under control.<br />
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Oddly, i was thinking about the similarities between leash training of puppies and chastity training of husbands. An untrained puppy will tug and pull against the leash and nip and bite the leash. The puppy does not like the loss of personal control and the puppy does not know how to behave on the leash. Over time and with encouragement, the puppy will begin to accept the dominance of the owner and the leash that connects the puppy to the owner.<br />
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Similarly, a husband or boyfriend is less likely to accept the dominance of the Wife or Girlfriend and, when first placed in chastity, may tug and pull in an effort to reassert his own control. Eventually, however, with time and encouragement, the husband will resign himself to his rightful place a step behind the Wife and, given enough time, the husband may no longer require the chastity device in order to mind his manners and follow alongside his Wife.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgiBWTXYGmeCE0YT_26uz2bsw2QE6LI258PKrwqT3pzW8ktITvITxxdytIA6xV_mzPAPzTPf9OR0QU9YEsQS_-H4uwVqFjd9wqLsFvz0QxhNJNvYn1j3wtxoOTizqmkuXmxMgmQo4DiqkY/s1600/penis-leash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgiBWTXYGmeCE0YT_26uz2bsw2QE6LI258PKrwqT3pzW8ktITvITxxdytIA6xV_mzPAPzTPf9OR0QU9YEsQS_-H4uwVqFjd9wqLsFvz0QxhNJNvYn1j3wtxoOTizqmkuXmxMgmQo4DiqkY/s320/penis-leash.jpg" /></a></div>Just like anyone leash training a puppy, the goal of the Wife is to clearly communicate to the husband what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior. It is important that everyone involved in the training convey a consistent message or set of rules. If only the Wife is involved, this should be relatively easy.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-17222640167567499322010-06-20T12:04:00.000-07:002010-06-20T12:04:00.160-07:00Shoe Polishing Servitude<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKsEVcwieK1CV-uyi_z7HoXZ6bv4aoeaYflFo-XhyGfUPvdrgsPTY0M1nx_ypHKDP0_CSFsMntaZBgIKAxqFAMXxBQmWSmQw6hbD2OrU9b5aVqplCgEmYtb8B1DOfzQPvDX1EL4InQJ_Q/s1600/264184206_a114b4e2ea_b.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="295" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKsEVcwieK1CV-uyi_z7HoXZ6bv4aoeaYflFo-XhyGfUPvdrgsPTY0M1nx_ypHKDP0_CSFsMntaZBgIKAxqFAMXxBQmWSmQw6hbD2OrU9b5aVqplCgEmYtb8B1DOfzQPvDX1EL4InQJ_Q/s400/264184206_a114b4e2ea_b.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>A recent post by "On Female Dominance of the male" that can be found <a href="http://ondominance.blogspot.com/2010/06/and-then-theres-clean-my-boots-with.html">here</a> set my mind to thinking about something that i hadn't thought of before: "i am working to get/keep the housework handled so She doesn't have to lift a finger; i have completely neglected Her wardrobe."<br />
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While i do all of the laundry, including folding and putting it away, i hadn't thought of the most important of fashion accessories: Her shoes. Before i began spiraling away from the life i had know, before i learned about Woman Led Relationships and before i learned about the potentially life-changing effects of chastity, i didn't pay much attention, if any, to shoes. Now, years later, i notice shoes and feet more than ever before.<br />
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Anyway, i am adding "polish Her leather shoes" to my list of things to take care of around Her house. For tips, i was directed to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Polish-Shoes">wikihow</a> and its description. i polish my own shoes, but i want to do better for Her footwear than i do for mine.<br />
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i will use the best polish i can find and the best polishing equipment that is made for polishing shoes. i am open to suggestions if anyone has a preference for polishes or polishing equipment.<br />
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Incidentally, the picture of the rose and legs is from <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/rinaldi/264184206/">Andrea Rinaldi</a> on Flickr, the picture of the Microsheen advertisement is from <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/rchappo2002/2359375927/">rchappo2002</a> on Flickr and the photo of the maid presenting the properly shine shoes to her Boss is from <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/photognome/2749547000/">photognome</a> on Flickr. i like to give credit to those who provide the wonderful images to illustrate my thoughts.<br />
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i hope Y/your week ahead will be shining.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-12803316320901890082010-02-20T09:22:00.000-08:002010-02-20T09:22:47.584-08:00Quick Update - Mid-FebruaryThank you everyone for the direct messages and the comments asking for updates. Encouragement always motivates.<br />
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First, i remain in the daily struggle for control over a wandering mind. My Wife is beautiful, sexy and very attractive to me - the struggle is internal and always has been there. Even in college, when i was dating other Women, i struggled to control myself. So, to those of Y/you reading this as Y/your first exposure to my blog, my need for chastity is very real.<br />
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On to some updates...<br />
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<u><b>Broken CB6000 Cage</b></u> <br />
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i broke my CB6000. Yes, Y/you read that correctly. i split the seam that joins the bottom of the two molded halves. i didn't realize that it was split at first. One day, as i was putting the CB6000 on, i felt an unfamiliar pinch so i removed the device to inspect it. The pinch was on the top, but as i inspected the device, i came to realize that the top seam was just beginning to separate as a result of the bottom seam being completely separated. This was a tad discouraging, encouraging in that my erections must be pretty strong to be able to pull the two halves of the CB6000 apart (*patting self on back*), but discouraging nonetheless.<br />
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In hindsight, i wish i had taken pictures of my broken cage and the repair process. In a nutshell, i first attempted to cement back together the split portions of the seams. i bought a tube of Elmer's Model and Hobby cement. i opened up the split seams and, using a cotton swab (e.g., Q-Tip), i applied the cement and pressed the seams back together. After waiting 24 hours, i tested the resulting bonds. Failure. The seams simply reopened again.<br />
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At this point, i decided that it was all or nothing. i was likely going to need a new cage anyway so i broke both seams fully, which left me with two fully separated halves. i sanded the edges and then applied the model cement. As instructed on the label, i allowed the cement to set up and then pressed the two halves back together and held them together tightly for a few minutes. After about three minutes, i wrapped a rubber band around the repaired cage and set it aside for 24 hours. <br />
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The next day, i checked the repair and the seams seemed stronger than when originally bought but there were rough spots caused by the glue. i bought some 1500 grit wet/dry sandpaper and some plastic polish from the auto supply store (bet they'd never guess how that stuff was going to be used) and proceeded to knock down the rough spots and polish the cage as much as possible.<br />
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The repairs seems to be holding. i've worn the repaired CB6000 for three days now with no problems. i still am in the market for a CB6000s but the Stockroom storefront (street name is "Syren") was sold out of the 6000s and they appeared to be on backorder.<br />
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<u><b>First Time in CB6000 Exceeding 24 Hours</b></u><br />
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Those of Y/you who have been following my blog for a while now know that my Wife knows nothing about the CB6000. She gets the upsides of increased attention and more service than ever before without having to be involved in the care and maintenance of the CB6000. i typically lock and unlock myself to prevent any temptation exceeding my ability for restraint. i was chronic in the desire to handle things on my own...more than once a day was typical.<br />
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My Wife is traveling this weekend. Normally, for me personally, this would be a HUGE temptation and a HUGE failure of my self-control. Hence the need for a functioning CB6000 this weekend.<br />
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Yes, having the keys accessible is a weakness in the system, but i also have the viewpoint that, if i am going to go through all the trouble and expense of owning and wearing a CB6000, i need to commit to not breaking down and unlocking. Sounds goofy, and it may BE goofy, but until my Wife is involved as a keyholder, i do what i can.<br />
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So here i sit in day 2 of lockup. i locked yesterday morning before work and i am not planning on removing the device until tomorrow afternoon before She arrives home. In the meantime, i have some kid duties to perform and some housework that needs my attention. i'd love to post more, but i am out of time for the moment.<br />
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Enjoy Y/your day and i look forward to an comments Y/you may have.<br />
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-chaste hubbyChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-25122172663804790502010-02-07T10:53:00.000-08:002010-02-07T10:54:52.471-08:00Sorry for the Silence<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="http://technestreport.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/duct-tape-mouth.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="198" src="http://technestreport.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/duct-tape-mouth.jpg" width="320" /></a>To the followers of this blog, i apologize for the lengthy silence since the holidays. i am still devoted to the chastity lifestyle, with or without my Wife's participation. As the new year started, we began to get along better than ever. Less arguing by me, less snapping by me, less of many things by me and more loving by me, more caring by me and more housework for me.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">i have been engaging in conversations with people on Twitter as, who else, ChasteHubby. i receive encouraging words there and i attempt to provide encouragement to others as well. Twitter has revitalized my love to people of all kinds. Really, there are great conversations that occur over there and the conversations help keep me motivated to improve myself.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So what have i been doing of late with respect to my relationship? </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">First, i bought some massage oils and i have been offering to give my Wife a massage every night possible. Sometimes a massage just doesn't make sense, like if i have to work late or She is already sleeping by the time i make it up to Her bedroom. Otherwise, i give her a half-hour massage. One night, i gave Her a massage while we watched "The Breakfast Club" - for the whole movie! </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Second, i've been doing EVERY load of laundry. i do one load in the morning and one load in the evening. Her house has never been as on top of the laundry as it is now. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Third, i am on my hands and knees scrubbing the bathrooms every weekend. i am not just quickly cleaning all three bathrooms each weekend. Rather, i am deep cleaning one bathroom every weekend. i also am cleaning up the kitchen every evening and, once a week, i am cooking dinner.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">i've not had an orgasm in about 20 days, which is an all-time record for me. i am waking up every morning now with morning wood - which hasn't happened to me for years. One of my friends on Twitter said to just keep thinking about how good the release will feel and that has kept me going. i want to experience that release WITH my wife so i keep my eyes on the prize and push on.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">i have limited time today but so much to share. i will make a commitment to keep posting more frequently, even if it is a short post, but i would like to hear from you, the readers. We all need encouragement and correction! Have a wonderful week.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">-chaste hubby</div>ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-73050924551207669872010-01-09T22:37:00.000-08:002010-01-09T22:37:02.664-08:00Impact is Being FeltI started my chastity experiment to see what impact, if any, it might have on my relationship with my Wife. My Wife swings wildly from submissive/docile to dominant/aggressive but she tends to be more on the submissive side.<br />
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One night, while having sex, I found myself unable to perform. This was devastating to my wife. She thought I was no longer attracted to her. Actually, that couldn't have been farther from the truth. The problem wasn't her - it was my overactive libido and imagination coupled with this wonderful thing called the internet. I was handling things on my own, so to speak, WAY too frequently. In fact, I had handled things earlier that evening and, as far as I understand, with increased age comes longer refractory periods.<br />
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Not long after this, I decided it was time to do something about my itchy trigger finger and I started reading about chastity devices. After much research, I settled on the CB6000 and started searching out a store that sold the device. My shopping experience was blogged earlier in <a href="http://slidingintochastity.blogspot.com/2009/10/adventure-begins.html">this post</a>.<br />
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Shortly after I started limiting my ability to freely have orgasms, I found that I started paying more and more attention to my wife and the things that she enjoys and appreciates. I returned to the courtship activities, such as telephone calls for no reason, back rubs without expecting anything in return and bringing her flowers "just because." I began carrying more of the load around the house, such as doing the laundry, cleaning the kitchen, washing the dishes and vacuuming. All of this I did freely and willingly without any input from my wife.<br />
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She took notice. She often would come downstairs and ask me to just sit down and relax. I couldn't. I wanted to impress her. I wanted her to want to let me have a release. This was quite a change.<br />
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I started flirting with her again. More desire for release started bubbling over and, again, she took notice. On night, I distinctly remember her asking me "Why have you been so horny lately." I just told her how beautiful she was but I couldn't bring myself to discuss the lock that I was wearing on a daily basis whenever I was out of her presence.<br />
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Fast-forwarding a couple of months, things are still going well. Actually, things are continuing to improve. I continue to take on more and more responsibilities around the house. She is getting to spend more time relaxing. And just tonight - she hugged me and said: "I really enjoy not arguing with you like we used to."<br />
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So - yep, I believe an impact is being felt. Could I have done it without the CB6000? Maybe. Did I do it before I owned the CB6000? Nope. Impact felt.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-49675634470309266832010-01-03T17:55:00.000-08:002010-01-03T17:55:09.885-08:00What He DesiredShe leaned in. He could feel her breath. Warm. Moist. A chill crept up his neck. He could feel the hairs on his neck starting to stand on end. It had been so long.<br />
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Her breath. His arousal. He was becoming aroused. He swelled – in his cage. His cage was limiting his growth. Squeezing him firmly. <br />
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His cage was preventing her mouth from touching him. She was so close to him. He could feel her breath but he would not be feeling her mouth envelop him.<br />
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She continued breathing right in front of the cage. Her tongue reached forward. The tip of her tongue flicked in and out of the hole at the end of the cage. Teasing him. Taunting him. God, he wanted her.<br />
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Her hand. Her soft hand with her slender fingers. Her hand stretched forward. Her fingers traced the ring that secured the cage in position, brushing him ever so gently. She cupped him in her palm and drew him toward her mouth.<br />
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Her mouth. Her moist lips. Her velvety tongue. Her lips. Her lips stretched forward and enveloped the cage. She peered upward at him. Her loving eyes locked with his. She maintained her gaze as she slowly moved her lips back and forth along the cage, periodically flicking the hole at the end with the pointed tip of her tongue.<br />
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A tear trickled down his cheek. This was heaven. This was hell. This was what he desired - he couldn't have what he desired.ChasteHubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02966259149220633558noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978054714465385311.post-81142787481569234662010-01-02T09:22:00.000-08:002010-01-02T09:22:37.406-08:00Why Chastity? A Woman's View of the LockupThanks to bing.com for locating this video found on http://www.myspace.com/sissystefani. This video informative and enlightening. I agree with almost everything She says in the video with the exception of the effectiveness of a plastic device. I am able to reach orgasm, granted an unsatisfying orgasm, while remaining locked within the chastity device if the period of lockup is sufficient. Anyway, here is to an eventful 2010. I hope it is starting off well for everyone!<br />
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<a href="http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=40684698">Mistress' View on Enforced Chastity</a><br />
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