Halloween Delight

"Honey, when you have a moment, can you please come in here?" My wife was calling to me from the bedroom. 

For months I have been stepping up around the house.  I have been reading online about housekeeping and steadily increasing my workload around the house.  My wife was beginning to enjoy her new found free time.  She was spending time at the gym.  She was going out for nice dinners with her friends.  Basically, she was getting the "her time" that every married woman needs.

I, on the other hand, no longer was golfing, going to the bar or playing poker with the other men in the neighborhood.  Instead of donning a golf glove, I was putting on rubber gloves.  Instead of worrying about being dealt a bad hand, I was worrying about getting dishpan hands.

I quietly knocked and waited for permission from her to enter. Upon entering, I could see her at her desk carefully studying a magazine, but I couldn't make out exactly what kind of magazine.  She slowly turned in my direction.

"Sit down on the bed for a minute.  I just wanted to thank you," she started.  "You have been working your fingers to the bone so that I can relax and enjoy myself.  And I truly appreciate it."

"You are very welcome honey.  It's the least I can do to show you my appreciation," I replied, maybe a little bit too quickly.

"Dear, please don't interrupt.  When I am ready for you to talk, I will let you know.  Until then, please remain quiet."

I nodded in reply.

"You know that I have been going to dinner with Lisa and Louisa, right?"

I nodded once again so as to not frustrate her further.

"Lisa is hosting a Halloween party tomorrow night and she invited us a few weeks back.  I have been struggling with the costumes but, when I was talking with Louisa over coffee this morning, she mentioned how nice it must be to have a maid.  That's when I knew it."  She paused, almost uncomfortably long.

My puzzled expression must have given her the suggestion that I had no idea what "it" was.

"I still have not decided what my costume will be, but you will be attending as a maid."

I struggled to hold my tongue and to control my emotions.  I must have looked startled but I did not speak.

She then showed me a page of the magazine she was looking through.  It was actually a catalog from a costume store.  The images were shocking but she quickly pointed to the French Maid.

"This is it, hubby, this is the costume I am getting for you.  You will look so sweet wearing it, I just know it."

I started shaking my head with wide, teary eyes.

"Relax, honey, everything will be all right.  You'll see..."

to be continued?

 

Not Exactly In The Cards...

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A Training Leash of Sorts

The picture above from SandraSoroka on flickr reminded me of a post i had started sometime ago.  Years ago, we got our first dog. As a family, we have learned much about dogs, sometimes out of necessity and sometimes out of accident.  One of the first things we learned about, out of necessity, was leash training. 

Leash training is an important aspect of raising a new puppy. It is well-known that a leash trained puppy is a safer puppy and a much more manageable puppy.  Leash training takes much time, energy and patience. However, once a puppy has been leash trained, the owners can progress to having the puppy take walks off the leash but still under control.

Oddly, i was thinking about the similarities between leash training of puppies and chastity training of husbands. An untrained puppy will tug and pull against the leash and nip and bite the leash. The puppy does not like the loss of personal control and the puppy does not know how to behave on the leash. Over time and with encouragement, the puppy will begin to accept the dominance of the owner and the leash that connects the puppy to the owner.

Similarly, a husband or boyfriend is less likely to accept the dominance of the Wife or Girlfriend and, when first placed in chastity, may tug and pull in an effort to reassert his own control.  Eventually, however, with time and encouragement, the husband will resign himself to his rightful place a step behind the Wife and, given enough time, the husband may no longer require the chastity device in order to mind his manners and follow alongside his Wife.

Just like anyone leash training a puppy, the goal of the Wife is to clearly communicate to the husband what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior. It is important that everyone involved in the training convey a consistent message or set of rules. If only the Wife is involved, this should be relatively easy.

Shoe Polishing Servitude

A recent post by "On Female Dominance of the male" that can be found here set my mind to thinking about something that i hadn't thought of before: "i am working to get/keep the housework handled so She doesn't have to lift a finger; i have completely neglected Her wardrobe."

While i do all of the laundry, including folding and putting it away, i hadn't thought of the most important of fashion accessories: Her shoes.  Before i began spiraling away from the life i had know, before i learned about Woman Led Relationships and before i learned about the potentially life-changing effects of chastity, i didn't pay much attention, if any, to shoes.  Now, years later, i notice shoes and feet more than ever before.

Anyway, i am adding "polish Her leather shoes" to my list of things to take care of around Her house.  For tips, i was directed to wikihow and its description.  i polish my own shoes, but i want to do better for Her footwear than i do for mine.

i will use the best polish i can find and the best polishing equipment that is made for polishing shoes.  i am open to suggestions if anyone has a preference for polishes or polishing equipment.

Of course, like the rest of the housework, She will need to approve of what is being done, how it is being done and how well it has been done.  If things are not done properly, Y/you can bet that they will be done again.  Thus, once, the shoes have been shined, they will be presented to Her for Her review and approval before being carefully placed back into Her closet.

Incidentally, the picture of the rose and legs is from Andrea Rinaldi on Flickr, the picture of the Microsheen advertisement is from rchappo2002 on Flickr and the photo of the maid presenting the properly shine shoes to her Boss is from photognome on Flickr. i like to give credit to those who provide the wonderful images to illustrate my thoughts.

i hope Y/your week ahead will be shining.

Quick Update - Mid-February

Thank you everyone for the direct messages and the comments asking for updates.  Encouragement always motivates.

First, i remain in the daily struggle for control over a wandering mind.  My Wife is beautiful, sexy and very attractive to me - the struggle is internal and always has been there. Even in college, when i was dating other Women, i struggled to control myself.  So, to those of Y/you reading this as Y/your first exposure to my blog, my need for chastity is very real.

On to some updates...

Broken CB6000 Cage

i broke my CB6000.  Yes, Y/you read that correctly. i split the seam that joins the bottom of the two molded halves.  i didn't realize that it was split at first. One day, as i was putting the CB6000 on, i felt an unfamiliar pinch so i removed the device to inspect it.  The pinch was on the top, but as i inspected the device, i came to realize that the top seam was just beginning to separate as a result of the bottom seam being completely separated.  This was a tad discouraging, encouraging in that my erections must be pretty strong to be able to pull the two halves of the CB6000 apart (*patting self on back*), but discouraging nonetheless.

In hindsight, i wish i had taken pictures of my broken cage and the repair process.  In a nutshell, i first attempted to cement back together the split portions of the seams.  i bought a tube of Elmer's Model and Hobby cement.  i opened up the split seams and, using a cotton swab (e.g.,  Q-Tip), i applied the cement and pressed the seams back together.  After waiting 24 hours, i tested the resulting bonds.  Failure.  The seams simply reopened again.

At this point, i decided that it was all or nothing.  i was likely going to need a new cage anyway so i broke both seams fully, which left me with two fully separated halves.  i sanded the edges and then applied the model cement. As instructed on the label, i allowed the cement to set up and then pressed the two halves back together and held them together tightly for a few minutes.  After about three minutes, i wrapped a rubber band around the repaired cage and set it aside for 24 hours. 

The next day, i checked the repair and the seams seemed stronger than when originally bought but there were rough spots caused by the glue. i bought some 1500 grit wet/dry sandpaper and some plastic polish from the auto supply store (bet they'd never guess how that stuff was going to be used) and proceeded to knock down the rough spots and polish the cage as much as possible.

The repairs seems to be holding. i've worn the repaired CB6000 for three days now with no problems. i still am in the market for a CB6000s but the Stockroom storefront (street name is "Syren") was sold out of the 6000s and they appeared to be on backorder.

First Time in CB6000 Exceeding 24 Hours

Those of Y/you who have been following my blog for a while now know that my Wife knows nothing about the CB6000.  She gets the upsides of increased attention and more service than ever before without having to be involved in the care and maintenance of the CB6000.  i typically lock and unlock myself to prevent any temptation exceeding my ability for restraint. i was chronic in the desire to handle things on my own...more than once a day was typical.

My Wife is traveling this weekend.  Normally, for me personally, this would be a HUGE temptation and a HUGE failure of my self-control.  Hence the need for a functioning CB6000 this weekend.

Yes, having the keys accessible is a weakness in the system, but i also have the viewpoint that, if i am going to go through all the trouble and expense of owning and wearing a CB6000, i need to commit to not breaking down and unlocking.  Sounds goofy, and it may BE goofy, but until my Wife is involved as a keyholder, i do what i can.

So here i sit in day 2 of lockup.  i locked yesterday morning before work and i am not planning on removing the device until tomorrow afternoon before She arrives home.  In the meantime, i have some kid duties to perform and some housework that needs my attention.  i'd love to post more, but i am out of time for the moment.

Enjoy Y/your day and i look forward to an comments Y/you may have.

-chaste hubby

Sorry for the Silence

To the followers of this blog, i apologize for the lengthy silence since the holidays.  i am still devoted to the chastity lifestyle, with or without my Wife's participation.  As the new year started, we began to get along better than ever. Less arguing by me, less snapping by me, less of many things by me and more loving by me, more caring by me and more housework for me.

i have been engaging in conversations with people on Twitter as, who else, ChasteHubby. i receive encouraging words there and i attempt to provide encouragement to others as well.  Twitter has revitalized my love to people of all kinds. Really, there are great conversations that occur over there and the conversations help keep me motivated to improve myself.

So what have i been doing of late with respect to my relationship? 

First, i bought some massage oils and i have been offering to give my Wife a massage every night possible. Sometimes a massage just doesn't make sense, like if i have to work late or She is already sleeping by the time i make it up to Her bedroom.  Otherwise, i give her a half-hour massage.  One night, i gave Her a massage while we watched "The Breakfast Club" - for the whole movie! 

Second, i've been doing EVERY load of laundry. i do one load in the morning and one load in the evening. Her house has never been as on top of the laundry as it is now.  

Third, i am on my hands and knees scrubbing the bathrooms every weekend.  i am not just quickly cleaning all three bathrooms each weekend.  Rather, i am deep cleaning one bathroom every weekend. i also am cleaning up the kitchen every evening and, once a week, i am cooking dinner.

i've not had an orgasm in about 20 days, which is an all-time record for me. i am waking up every morning now with morning wood - which hasn't happened to me for years. One of my friends on Twitter said to just keep thinking about how good the release will feel and that has kept me going. i want to experience that release WITH my wife so i keep my eyes on the prize and push on.

i have limited time today but so much to share. i will make a commitment to keep posting more frequently, even if it is a short post, but i would like to hear from you, the readers. We all need encouragement and correction! Have a wonderful week.

-chaste hubby

Impact is Being Felt

I started my chastity experiment to see what impact, if any, it might have on my relationship with my Wife. My Wife swings wildly from submissive/docile to dominant/aggressive but she tends to be more on the submissive side.

One night, while having sex, I found myself unable to perform. This was devastating to my wife. She thought I was no longer attracted to her. Actually, that couldn't have been farther from the truth. The problem wasn't her - it was my overactive libido and imagination coupled with this wonderful thing called the internet. I was handling things on my own, so to speak, WAY too frequently. In fact, I had handled things earlier that evening and, as far as I understand, with increased age comes longer refractory periods.

Not long after this, I decided it was time to do something about my itchy trigger finger and I started reading about chastity devices. After much research, I settled on the CB6000 and started searching out a store that sold the device. My shopping experience was blogged earlier in this post.

Shortly after I started limiting my ability to freely have orgasms, I found that I started paying more and more attention to my wife and the things that she enjoys and appreciates.  I returned to the courtship activities, such as telephone calls for no reason, back rubs without expecting anything in return and bringing her flowers "just because."  I began carrying more of the load around the house, such as doing the laundry, cleaning the kitchen, washing the dishes and vacuuming.  All of this I did freely and willingly without any input from my wife.

She took notice.  She often would come downstairs and ask me to just sit down and relax.  I couldn't.  I wanted to impress her.  I wanted her to want to let me have a release.  This was quite a change.

I started flirting with her again.  More desire for release started bubbling over and, again, she took notice.  On night, I distinctly remember her asking me "Why have you been so horny lately." I just told her how beautiful she was but I couldn't bring myself to discuss the lock that I was wearing on a daily basis whenever I was out of her presence.

Fast-forwarding a couple of months, things are still going well.  Actually, things are continuing to improve.  I continue to take on more and more responsibilities around the house.  She is getting to spend more time relaxing.  And just tonight - she hugged me and said: "I really enjoy not arguing with you like we used to."

So - yep, I believe an impact is being felt. Could I have done it without the CB6000?  Maybe.  Did I do it before I owned the CB6000? Nope.  Impact felt.

What He Desired

She leaned in. He could feel her breath. Warm. Moist. A chill crept up his neck. He could feel the hairs on his neck starting to stand on end. It had been so long.

Her breath. His arousal. He was becoming aroused. He swelled – in his cage. His cage was limiting his growth. Squeezing him firmly.

His cage was preventing her mouth from touching him. She was so close to him. He could feel her breath but he would not be feeling her mouth envelop him.

She continued breathing right in front of the cage. Her tongue reached forward. The tip of her tongue flicked in and out of the hole at the end of the cage. Teasing him. Taunting him. God, he wanted her.

Her hand. Her soft hand with her slender fingers. Her hand stretched forward. Her fingers traced the ring that secured the cage in position, brushing him ever so gently. She cupped him in her palm and drew him toward her mouth.

Her mouth. Her moist lips. Her velvety tongue. Her lips. Her lips stretched forward and enveloped the cage. She peered upward at him. Her loving eyes locked with his. She maintained her gaze as she slowly moved her lips back and forth along the cage, periodically flicking the hole at the end with the pointed tip of her tongue.

A tear trickled down his cheek. This was heaven. This was hell. This was what he desired - he couldn't have what he desired.

Why Chastity? A Woman's View of the Lockup

Thanks to bing.com for locating this video found on http://www.myspace.com/sissystefani.  This video informative and enlightening.  I agree with almost everything She says in the video with the exception of the effectiveness of a plastic device.  I am able to reach orgasm, granted an unsatisfying orgasm, while remaining locked within the chastity device if the period of lockup is sufficient.  Anyway, here is to an eventful 2010.  I hope it is starting off well for everyone!


Mistress' View on Enforced Chastity

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